Monday, October 22, 2007

The Transformation Has Begun! (Diary of Habit Changer, Part 3)

Nyssa has given us specifics! Here is her response to my last post:

I have to be honest: reading your last post made me quite anxious. Do I really need to be that specific? It seems soo restrictive. What if I am not in the mood to exercise or what if something comes up on a night I planned to exercise? There doesn't seem to be any wiggle room.


In the past, I have always stated how many times a week I would go to the gym. Then I would figure it out as I went through the week. That way, if I couldn't go one night, then I could make up for it another evening. Admittedly, that hasn't worked soo well for me.


Okay, I guess I will give this a try. But I can't help thinking that being this specific is only going to set up me up for failure.


Alright—I guess you are the expert and I did e-mail you for help. Here goes nothing. My plan for the week:


Tuesday at 5pm -- Jog with a co-worker for 25 mins
Wednesday at 7:30pm -- weights for 25mins and the cross-aerobics cardio machine for 20mins
Thursday at 5pm -- Jog with a co-worker for 25 mins
Saturday afternoon -- go for at least a 1hr hike with friends

Nyssa’s message says it all. In the past, her plans were more general and those plans did not work. Nyssa is afraid of setting herself up for failure by making specific plans. But, hold on a second, didn’t she fail with general plans? Yes, she did, but her failures were less obvious (see my last post). Nyssa is afraid of the sting of defeat if she fails to go for that hike on Saturday. Well, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is tough. Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps (how is that possible?). Suck it up . . .

Nyssa will check in with us in a week’s time and tell us how she fared. All the best, Nyssa!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Great job Nyssa - very brave of you to do this on-line.

I wonder if setting smaller, more doable goals to begin might be helpful. I find that succeeding with small goals builds my confidence and motivation.

Any thoughts Habit Guy? What does the science of changing one's habits say about goal setting?

Habit Guy said...

Goal-setting is an absolutely gigantic topic in psychology. So, now to summarize all of that research in one sentence: People achieve more when their goals are specific and difficult.

I helped Nyssa with the specific part and it seemed to me that her exercise plan was difficult enough. As you see in later posts, Nyssa did experience some difficulty, so those goals were not easy.

So, now it comes down to what you meant by "small goals." If you meant: set easy goals, then that doesn't seem such a great idea.